Living in a house full of gifted people, and working in IT as well, you forget that not everybody has these little things they have to do. It’s not a debilitating case of OCD or anything, it’s not perfectionism, although it could be related to that too. It’s just a certain discomfort when certain things aren’t in a particular state of order, or done in a certain way. Call them quirks if you like.
People who don’t have these things don’t get them and may make fun of you in a gentle way, which is OK as we make fun of ourselves too. Story : There was a bunch of identical pens on the table in the staffroom - click pens with the clip that goes over the pocket, and a nice fat hand grip. I decided to set a perfectionist trap, by lining all the pens up identically and then flipping one of them so the pocket clip was on the other side, and skewing it slightly. I wasn’t even finished straightening all the other pens when one of the science teachers came past, saw the skewed pen and literally said “Oh no, that’s not right” and fixed the pen. Haha funny. Except the joke was also on me - the reason I was still straightening the other pens was because the fat handgrips made them fan in a circle, and I wanted them straight, but when they were straight there was a big gap and they weren’t lining up properly. I would have been there for an hour if the science teacher hadn’t come along. I was caught in my own trap!!!
It could be that most people have them and geeky people are just more aware and notice them. I think possibly it’s a pressure release for anxiety and OCD and stuff - you make little places where you can have control and it helps you to cope with all the places where you don’t. This post on Rands in Repose explains it well -
This right shoe behavior started during ice hockey. The team was bad… like 0-10 bad…. I decided to become zen about situation… deliberate. Rather than stressing about the size of the beating, I considered the small parts of manageable reality sitting immediately in front of me.
“In what order shall I put my gear on? What is practical? What feels right? You know, I like putting my right skate on first. I can’t tell you why, but the order feels important. Right skate, then left.”
We killed them. 9-3….I credit the skates. No, I credit the skate application process.
That’s a very conscious application of it, and he knows why and where it came from. There is a list of other people’s quirks on that page too. There’s an even better list of quirks in the comments of the MentalFloss post about it.
People with these gifted/OCD tendencies appear to have a lot of trouble with M&Ms, where the desire for order and structure is vexed by the chaos of colour in the packet. Lots of people said they need to balance the M&Ms equally on each side of their mouth, and some people had special colour rules. One person found they could only be satisfied if they ate them until there were three of each colour left.
A surprising number of people had issues with the digital volume control on their stereo - they have to leave the volume on a multiple of 5, or an even number, and so on. Quite a few people needed to have their money in value order and all facing the same way. It’s pretty funny to read through all these, it’s like a list of Stephen Wright one liners, until you start to hit things you do and realise they are not perfectly sane after all. Some of them you just know aren’t right. I’ll search through the cutlery drawer at work looking for a fork or spoon that is just right for the meal I’m eating. I can’t quantify, I’ll just know when I see it. If I sleep at someone’s house and the spoons are the wrong size, I won’t eat cereal, I’ll have toast. Others we can make justifications for, and rationalise them to ourselves, but at the end they are still a bit bizarre. I’m talking about the toilet paper, Mon.
I’m talking about things like what we used to call the KWP check - keys wallet phone must be confirmed before leaving the office. There’s good reasons for checking all these things, but it’s the need to consciously check that is quirky. Eating food in a certain order. In most circumstances I have to have only one thing on my fork - I can’t have a piece of meat and a bit of carrot at the same time. Also have to be eaten in order of least favourite to most favourite. This is a problem if it’s steak and cheesy potatoes, I like both, I flounder. Sure you can say things like ‘I want to enjoy the flavour of each thing’, and that ‘the last thing I eat will be the taste that stays in my mouth’ and these things are true, but it’s the fact that they are also important to you that turn them into real quirks.
I was also forced to concede one that I sort of knew about, but hadn’t admitted. Someone posted :
If a dishwasher has been loaded by anyone other than myself, I will unload the contents and then reload methodically, so as to ensure maximum capacity has been reached. (This happens regardless of whether I am in my own home or someone else’s.
OK I may not go so far as to restack someone else’s, but it drives me nuts when someone else packs my dishwasher. They always do it wrong. I will wait till they are in the other room and reshuffle everything. It may be true that I am achieving maximum efficiency as well, but mostly it’s because the big plates go on the right, but you have to intersperse a small plate between each one or they kind of stick together and don’t wash. The soup plates have to go at the front to the left of the cutlery holder. And so on. It’s as if the dishwasher couldn’t possibly get them clean unless they were in those positions.
So if you’ve been to my house and I’ve done this to you, don’t take offense. It’s not you, it’s me. Although you know, the dishes really are cleaner my way!